The Three Educator Objectives
Updated: Nov 15, 2019
· Our society is governed by what psychologists call “differential reward”. That is, society attempts to control the behavior of its members by rewarding the behaviors it wants more of and punishing the behaviors it wants less of. Because this approach is so woven into the fabric of daily life, we generally take it for granted…it seems “natural”, and may be. But to not fall prey to the naturalistic fallacy, we can’t simply assume that because something’s natural, it’s worthy.
· Reward-and-punishment may be the only way very large groups (like cities and countries) can function (this is questionable). But, for small, human-sized groups, like families or tribes, reward-and-punishment is very ineffective and inefficient. This is because humans are selected by evolution to seek liberty and to reject control.
· An ignoble aspect of humans is that we are selected (through the process of biological evolution) to prefer implicit rule-sets. That is, we like rules, but we like to keep them in our heads instead of out in the open. By keeping our rules hidden in our minds and not explicated we may gain a survival advantage (i.e. we may be able to have the rules apply more beneficially to us than others).
· The problem is that because we are selected to prefer implicit rule-sets, we are also selected to be very keen at identifying others who harbor them. Identifying implicit rule-sets in others induces distrust. That is because we recognize it as an attempt by others to control us, against which we naturally rebel.
· As much as we may like, we are unable to reliably control others in any way that promotes their full human development. Ultimately, there are only three things humans can do to promote the education of others. These are WED’s Educator Objectives.
· So, a WED Educator’s first objective is to Model Healthy Relationship. Simply by practicing WED’s Behavioral Guidelines and embodying WED’s Developmental Goals we are exerting the greatest possible influence on others. Humans learn by copying and practicing the behaviors of others. This way, we demonstrate and enjoy the power of “leading by example”.
· A WED Educator’s second objective is Providing Clear Reflection. By lovingly and courageously facing and articulating our experience in relationship, we may promote a fuller understanding of ourselves and others. In doing so, we may humbly question the practice of others in a way that does not threaten them or enable their unhealthy habits.
· A WED Educator’s third objective is Encouraging True Focus. By Modeling Healthy Relationship and Providing Clear Reflection (while meeting WED’s Three Great Challenges) others may trust us and may grant us the authority necessary to gently apply discipline to the pursuit of healthy goals as they become evidently desired. In doing so, we may harness the beneficial power of practice and help discover our best selves. Simply put, by practicing healthy behaviors we will replace less healthy habits with more healthy habits and ensure maximal health and contentment; what we call Optimal Wellness.